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TL;DR I've neglected my conures for awhile leading to behaviour problems (screeching, some biting) which is getting to me & my boyfriend (and worry of possible neighbour complaints). The screaming was really bad last night which led to talk of rehoming the birds and my contacting their previous owner, who would love to take them back. I am an emotional wreck over this decision and want to do what I can to keep these birds, but don't know what is best for everyone involved.

I've posted on here before (a long time ago) about my screechy conures. I now live in a new apartment, but work more (and commute) and now share a home with my partner. To be brutally honest Typhoon and Pineapple have been neglected the last few months not food/water/cage cleaning wise but lack of attention, hardly letting them out, etc because I have been tired and LAZY. The screeching bothers my boyfriend too who usually ends up covering them with a sheet out of worry that the neighbours will complain. Last night we talked about the birds and he brought up rehoming them. And the noise bothers me too, a lot (sometimes it's incessant), and I thought maybe he was right.

So I wrote the previous owner of the one bird, who now lives in a house (he had to rehome or be kicked out of his apt before) and would love to have Typhoon back. And they would be happy to take Pineapple too, and said they would keep them together. The birds would have a good home. BUT -- I DON'T THINK I CAN GO THROUGH WITH IT!! I love these birds and it's 100% MY OWN FAULT they are screeching for attention, because they're bored and lonely. How friggin unfair to get rid of them for something they can't help and aren't doing anything wrong, and I am so worried I will regret it and I can't take it back. I feel like I need to at least try harder before rehoming is a fair option. I committed to these guys for their lifespan when I got them and do not just get rid of animals so how can I even consider this OK.

I really need advice guys...be brutal if you need to. I've not been a good birdy 'parent' for the past while I don't know what to do; I do not want to rehome these birds and am willing to get my butt into gear to try to improve their lives and behaviour so they're happy here (and I can keep them). But on the otherhand would they be better off with someone else? Do *they* really care? How do I tell the guy I've changed my mind (or should I)...thanks so much

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I'm sorry to hear you are so distressed with the situation with your conures. I think you have it figured out already you either want to re-home them or you want to change your life around and give them the time and love they need to be happier healthier birds who are less noisy.

Don't beat yourself up for the way things are going. You realize there needs to be a change for the birds so write down all the reasons you think you are not spending time with them. Pro's and Con's.

You just have to take a deep honest look at what you feel is your future situation and what's going to be happening in your life in the days months and years to come.

You mention you are now sharing a home with your partner does this change in your lifestyle seem to be affecting the way you deal with your birds? Your partner isn't really interested in them so it puts a stress on you if you see he covers the cage so you can have quiet time. It seems that time with your partner is more important than spending time with the birds you have had for a while now, this is normal and unavoidable.

You are working and traveling farther now and that means less time for the birds when you get home and want to unwind. Life is busy, you need to grocery shop and clean your home do laundry and work and maintain some time for yourself.

If the birds don't fit into that busy schedule easily anymore and you feel you can't give them what is most important then let them go back to the people who know them and will give them what they need. You can always call or email them and get updates and see how the birds are doing.

Life changes for people all the time and with those changes you need to be honest with yourself, do you really think you can make the time to give the birds the daily hands on they need or do you feel you can let them go.

I know it will hurt giving them up but personally I have a lot of respect for you if you make the decision to let them be re- homed. You are doing it for the well being of these birds, this is the best love you can give them.

Good luck with your decision.
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I don't want to rehome my conures - please help!

I have two articles I suggest you read before continuing; one is on rehoming, the other is on hormone control but a lot of it applies to your situation as well.



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