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post #1 of 26 (permalink) Old 10-23-2012, 09:56 AM Thread Starter
 
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this little girl named destony has done everything from fling my bird off a pillow to kicking at her to get her away from her....one day my bird came full force at destony and chased her out of the house cause she was fed up with what destony was doing to her....( I still think destony had that one coming) any ways yesterday destonys step mom my friend of 20 years was holding my bird and dest0ny freaked out and knocked her off her arm and Cheryl (step mom) got bit cause sierra was holding on for dear life......Thats when I said enough is enough one more insodent that little girl can not live here and Im not joking either I love my animals so much I cant stand by and let this little girl hurt her....I love kids too but thiis one is on my naughty list and I have beeen upset all night cause I never thought I would ever have to tell my friend of 20 years that I was thinking of kicking them out.....It hurts really bad

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Wow that is a sad situation ... In reality it is best for both you pets safety and your friend and her daughters safety.. How old is this child? It sounds more like she is jealous and targeting the bird ... If she was scared of her then she would avoid it not go after it. Does your friend have another place she can go? Is it possible to tell your friend that you will need them to leave if she cannot control her child's reaction/actions towards the bird? Good luck!
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Wow that is a sad situation ... In reality it is best for both you pets safety and your friend and her daughters safety.. How old is this child? It sounds more like she is jealous and targeting the bird ... If she was scared of her then she would avoid it not go after it. Does your friend have another place she can go? Is it possible to tell your friend that you will need them to leave if she cannot control her child's reaction/actions towards the bird? Good luck!
I refuse to except fear as a reason cause she loved my trition I fostered she had to hold him and feed him all the time I thiink she is a bad little girl who needs her but whipped but her daddy babys her and my friend her step mom isnt allowed to punish her so I really have no other choice but to kick them out if it happens again

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I don't think you will find much argument on that fact here... We all love our birds and would have a fit if anyone intentionally harmed or abused them... Eventually this kind of behavior towards your bird will cause unwanted agressive behavior from her towards this little girl or all people she is unsure of... I would not want either my bird or my friends child hurt... I personally think it is the right desicion.
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I think it would be best for the bird and the girl if you politely asked them to leave, explained the reason why, because if you let this go on longer, then either the bird is going to get injured/killed or the little girl will end up getting bitten. Does your friend have anywhere else to stay? What about the girl? Does she have a dad? My little sister when 4 this year killed our lineolated parakeet by hitting it with its perch. I tried to get the perch off her but was afraid of getting hit because she was going at me too, and she just hit it. I'd say to quickly get the bird out of that situation before anything like that ever happens.
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I don't think you will find much argument on that fact here... We all love our birds and would have a fit if anyone intentionally harmed or abused them... Eventually this kind of behavior towards your bird will cause unwanted agressive behavior from her towards this little girl or all people she is unsure of... I would not want either my bird or my friends child hurt... I personally think it is the right desicion.
Im so mad I might bite the kid myself like I said new rules she is not allowed in the front room or anywhere near my bird or she can move out Im done so done its not even funny

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how old is this girl? If she is 3 or 4 or something then it's still unacceptable behaviour but if she's over that then she should know better. This story makes me so mad
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how old is this girl? If she is 3 or 4 or something then it's still unacceptable behaviour but if she's over that then she should know better. This story makes me so mad
destony is 11 years old and knows what she is doing is wrong she has been told over and over again...I have to calm down before asking them to leave cause riight now II feel like snapping and I dont want to say or do something I will regret later the kids are in school so everything should be fine until I calm down and ask them to leave I feel bad but no one hurts my animals

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Try to remain calm. Don't make a scene out of it and politely explain to her that she is hurting them. Tell her something that will freak her out like 'if you do that to them they will eat you' or something to spook her from doing it. I only let people hold my birds if I feel they are confident enough

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11?!!!! I wouldn't have been as shocked if she was, say, 6 or 8, but 11?!! She should know better! I'm sorry but I don't think she's a very nice girl if she knows what she's doing wrong and is still attacking your bird. Well you're doing the right thing. What I don't understand is why she liked your triton but somehow has a vendetta against this one?I mean I'm no expert in psychology, but I know the basics. (My brother studied psychology at uni) Perhaps she's jealous of the attention the bird gets, although that is still no excuse for the way she treats your bird. It could also be that she feels threatened by this one? I'm not sure but tritons are a little smaller than umbrellas aren't they? It's probably louder as well. And since you mentioned it's not an aggressive cockatoo, then it's very unlikely that she's scared of it for that reason. Why not have a talk with her about why she is doing this? She might tell you why and then you'll be able to resolve this situation. Hope I helped.
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yeah and I agree with what Daisy's saying, but at 11 you should try to say something a bit more realistic like saying that if she attempts to harm Sierra in any way then she WILL bite, and hard too, probably. Maybe you should try showing her pictures of cockatoo bites on the internet to let her see how hard they can bite, and maybe she will stop. Hopefully she will avoid the bird after that, but if she doesn't, then it's probably time to kick them out. Say you're sorry and all but for the safety of the bird (and her daughter)then it would be best if they could find somewhere else to stay, and that you are in no way blaming her or directing any bad feelings toward her, you just feel it would be better for everyone.
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11?!!!! I wouldn't have been as shocked if she was, say, 6 or 8, but 11?!! She should know better! I'm sorry but I don't think she's a very nice girl if she knows what she's doing wrong and is still attacking your bird. Well you're doing the right thing. What I don't understand is why she liked your triton but somehow has a vendetta against this one?I mean I'm no expert in psychology, but I know the basics. (My brother studied psychology at uni) Perhaps she's jealous of the attention the bird gets, although that is still no excuse for the way she treats your bird. It could also be that she feels threatened by this one? I'm not sure but tritons are a little smaller than umbrellas aren't they? It's probably louder as well. And since you mentioned it's not an aggressive cockatoo, then it's very unlikely that she's scared of it for that reason. Why not have a talk with her about why she is doing this? She might tell you why and then you'll be able to resolve this situation. Hope I helped.
well Im fed up to the max I just talked to my friend her step mom and said destony is not allowed any of my birds or the rooms they live in if she atempts one more thiing twords my bird I will have no choice but to aske them to leave and I left it at that....the mmom understood completely and said she dont blame me one bit so that went pretty well actually

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oh that's good. Glad she understands as well as you do. You've done the right thing
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That's great that she understood and I agree an 11 year old should know better! I hope this works and you do not need to go to the next step, but if the girl does not behave , then for her sake as well as the birds, you will have to make that desicion!
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good on you for staying calm , i would have lost it

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I will have no problem kicking anyone out of my home thats for sure so since the step mom isnt allowed to disapline destony the dad better put her in check and I mean as soon as she gets home Im that seriouse....My ofriend is so fed up with the child she is ready to leave the dad becase he wont disopline that child so I told my friend then they leave and you stay iif your serios about leaveing him cause Im not joking about kicking them out if destony goes around my bird or does anything or attempts anything Im dead serious

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i'm sorry but was that really necessary to drag that onto this forum? it is not fair to follow others around when they might just be looking for a new start elsewhere. they come here looking for less drama, so it should stay that way let members come here and find their peace away from others if they want. you would not want someone following you on every forum causing drama everywhere they went. so dont do that to others please.



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Oh gosh! I am so sorry to hear this. I saw and never replied to your post in the other forum http://theparrotforum.com/viewtopic.php?t=9266 I assume you let them move back in? I really hope the no sticks this time if she does it again. I couldn't stand this. My pets are my family, if one of them were kicking them they wouldn't get a second chance. Birds can be hurt so terribly easily.
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Whoops sorry I did the same thing. I was just feeling confused because of the post from a few weeks ago. I just want to make sure that the no sticks. It worries me that Sierra could be hurt. I was so happy in the other posting that the situation had resolved itself.
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Whoops sorry I did the same thing. I was just feeling confused because of the post from a few weeks ago. I just want to make sure that the no sticks. It worries me that Sierra could be hurt. I was so happy in the other posting that the situation had resolved itself.
YOU arent purposely following the OP from forum to forum, a few other members are, and that is not fair. regardless what is said on other forums, people should not follow others around to stir up trouble, people should mind their own business and keep their discussions to their own respective forums, not drag it all over the place. this goes both ways. people sometimes go to forum to forum for bad reasons such as trolling, but if a member truly is a troll, im sure the forum members are smart enough to figure it out on their own and dont need others to come in JUST to stir the pot. other people go to other forums to escape a situation they perceived as bad and they wanted away from it genuinely and they should be able to have a clean slate without outside forums interfering. when someone joins here to share stories and actually participate on here genuinely, they are always more than welcome. but to come here with the sole intention of causing trouble for others is unnecessary and "troll like" people need to let others figure things out for themselves and keep to their own forum instead of trying to cause dispute everywhere. thats not fair nor does it reflect well on the person who is basically STALKING and HARASSING everywhere else. i know this thread is seen by other forums, so i hope they have the decency to just let bygones be bygones and let us members here figure things out for ourselves. if anyone wants to join this forum to genuinely be a part of this good community, they are all the more welcome. but i do not agree with people following others from forum to forum or to other sites such as youtube and facebook. what happens on one forum should stay on one forum


textsfromparrots, this post here was not directed at you, you have joined here to enjoy the forum, not to cause discord and to prove a point. i mean you no offense.



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