textsfromparrots, i want to say a few things.
its not a matter of intentions here. its literally the way people talk. i am aware of some of those forums, and a few of them (NOT all) can be really abrasive to people they dont quite understand. it is one thing to be harsh to someone to get a point across and to try to help them see something they might not be noticing, however, when these members do this and then follow this person around from forum to forum, regardless of what is said or not, that is harassment and not needed and that is called bullying. it is not anyone's business why she does things, it is not anyone's business to follow her around to chase her from forum to forum until they are satisfied when she has nowhere else to go. that is WRONG. i am not accusing you of doing it. but there has already been several people from another forum come here and think theyre so important that they can do what they like and make people miserable anywhere they go. in the end, theyre the miserable ones because they have no respect or empathy, and that is NOT how this forum is run, our mods here will not tolerate that behaviour and any member who decides to do this to our members here will not be tolerated, by the mods, or the kind members here.
whether newbee here is saying different things different places, that is nobody's business and if there is drama on one forum, it should stay on that forum. let people find a new start somewhere else in peace. we will not tolerate bullies here. i for one will not let members be bullied for stupid reasons. stupid reasons i mean by disrespectful people thinking theyre the elite birdie police who think they are right and have to rule everyone else's life and opinions. newbee does not have to share ANYTHING with any of you that she does not want to. she has that right to privacy. and if what you say is true and these people are calling rescues and police to see if the story is true, that is not anyone's place to do so. its beyond me that someone would think themselves so important and would go and do that. also, ever think that perhaps some rescues, police, whatever have to keep details of certain things confidential? not a one of you have any proof of anything.
and most of all not a single one of you know everyone's situations. they can choose not to say anything about something. what happens if they have a medical reason for why they do things the way they do? no place to judge. this forum is not a place for that, and i for one will not stand by and let this happen to a member who wants a place to talk and share stories and maybe get some kind advice. not everyone needs to be bashed in order to get advice. some people respond very well to being treated kindly and respected. this message goes out to any of the members from the other forums who are lurking here who think they can come here and try to push their negativity on us. we will not tolerate it, you will not be allowed to do so.
perhaps "rude" is like beauty, it is in the eye of the beholder....
sometimes questions do not need to be asked, things do not need to be said. what right do any of these other forums have that they think they can come here and harass people? theyve been doing it for several days now and this is NOT right. they say they are not rude but yet what do you call chasing members around just to bully them and turn forums against them? thats rude. i for one have seen how rude other forums can be, ive had enough of those places and i will take my stand where those members butt their noses where they dont belong. i will leave them alone on their forums, because i will not stoop to their level and harass others on other forums. but come onto our peaceful more accepting forums and try to cause discord, you will see soon that it is not welcome.
now suggestion to everyone, please leave this member alone in peace here, you claim she wont have anywhere to help her. well guess what, harass her off every forum there is out there and she WONT have that option. we wont allow that. this member is welcome here and welcome to our help and advice, regardless of what has been done or said on another forum.
people want new starts and deserve new starts. do not try to come here and ruin things for people. thats not right and i will not stand for bullies.
i know i am probably sounding a bit harsh, but i've had it with these people and i do not want to see more of this issue. let it go, both newbee and anyone who has issues with her. let it go, move on and leave things in peace. simple. there is no need to drag this drama out. i mean that kindly
i dont want to see people leave this forum because they were attacked from OTHER forums and i dont want fights started because people just cant move on, be adults, and just let it go. ive learned that lesson hard so i am speaking from experience here. sometimes its a more mature and respectable path to forgive, forget, and learn from mistakes and build from them.
newbee will be upset about how she was treated elsewhere, and if people are invading her privacy, then you know what? she has every right to be upset.
but can we PLEASE stop dragging this onto the forum, with every thread?